14 Unfortunate Signs Your Girlfriend Likes Another Guy (And What To Do About It!) (2023)

I won't mince words here: my girlfriend is thirsty for another man and it's driving me crazy.

I hate him with every fiber of my being and I reacted so badly that she started flirting with him and showing interest in him.

I recently put together this list of what to do if you find yourself in this position as well.

14 Unfortunate Signs Your Girlfriend Likes Another Guy (And What To Do About It!)

Hack Spirit is all about providing relationships andAutodesarrolloNo frills or wellness advice bs.

That is why I will be very direct with the following list.

This is how you can tell if your girlfriend is interested in someone else and what you can do about it.

1) She would rather talk to him than you

We all have different people in our lives who arenot romanticor sexual.

Friends, family, and co-workers come to mind.

If your girlfriend has a few men in her life who are friends with her or spend time with her every day, you probably already know them.

If she has been chatting with strangers online, you may have no idea.

However, one of the unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another guy is that she is taking away your attention.

Suddenly, she's always laughing and talking on the phone with a new person and she's not sure who it is...

Suddenly, she stays at the university after school to do "extra work" with her new boyfriend, Tyler, who is "so smart and cool, you'd love that, you know?"

Well, it certainly looks like she loves him anyway!

2) You no longer turn her on

How is your sex life (Or should I say your lack of sex life).

One of the unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another guy is when she stops wanting to touch you orsleep with you.

If you sleep in the same bed, you may notice that he physically puts more distance between the two of you or complains of a sudden "weariness" when you start to get a little slick.

Here's the deal:

There are many reasons why your girlfriend might be less interested in you physically, including hormonal reasons or things she's going through.

But more often than not, that means you fill up your tank at another gas station.

If that doesn't mean having sex, it usually means fantasizing about another guy, getting along with him online, or focusing all your romantic attention on someone so that he feels like he's pretending to sleep with you.

Oh.

3) It makes you doubt your own worth

The worst thing about your girlfriend falling for another guy is that you start to doubt your own worth so much.

This is the dark place I've been in for the past few months, wondering what to do about it.

The solution I found wasn't really about me and my girlfriend, it was about me and how I feel about myself.

I have always felt that in order to be truly happy in life, I needed to earn my partner's approval or affection.

I became obsessed with my physical appearance, my job, and my social status and how that would attract a "high quality" woman.

My girlfriend is definitely hot and what most would consider "high quality" but she's also a bit of a bombshell.

She expects me to be borderline perfect in almost every way, and it really began to confuse me and even doubt my own worth to the point where I wondered what would be left of me if I was worth saving if she let me.

What a weak place for a man

Rather than give in to this downhill feeling, I began concentrating on the roots of my self-image and how I could enhance my search for love and intimacy in a way that was truly effective...

...Instead of making me run in circles like a headless chicken.

I learned this from the world famous shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.

In fact, many of us sabotage and delude ourselves for years from finding a partner who can truly fulfill us.

Wie Rudá erklärtin this awesome free videoSo many of us search for love in a toxic way that ends up leaving us completely disappointed and lost.

I don't want to be in this toxic trap anymore so I watched this video carefully.

What I found really opened my mind.

i felt like someonefinally offered a really practical solutionwhat to do if your partner loses interest in you or cheats on you (or wants to cheat on you)

If you feel like your love life is a giant joke that isn't funny at all, you should see what Rudá has to say.

Click here to watch the free video.

4) He is flirting and having sex with another guy.

Today, many of us practically live on our smartphones.

So what's going on at your girlfriend's "house"?

I don't recommend snooping, installing spyware, or any of that creepy shit some possessive friends do.

For one thing, it's illegal.

Second, it just shows howinsecureYou are and will give all possible ammunition against him if and when he breaks.

Instead, take the main road and be careful.

Are your cheeks flushed and your voice hoarse after sitting on the couch chatting with a stranger for an hour?

So she goes to the bathroom and takes a long hot shower, which also seems to include some very...relaxing sound effects?

He's probably having sex with someone, let's be real.

And if you happen to glance at his phone while walking and see that Tyler's latest project shows him his penis from a unique angle that makes it look bigger...

You can be pretty sure you're doing more than just brainstorming your next essay.

sexting or notcheatingit is an ongoing discussion.

I'll stay out of it for now, but I will say that it makes it very clear that your girlfriend is no longer interested in you, at least not sexually.

5) She takes advantage of your love for her

you are a loving friend

I know and I'm not ashamed to admit it.

I am generous with money, time, sexually, and in almost every other way.

I want to know that my girlfriend is safe and happy in her life and to know that she can always turn to me for protection and care.

Unfortunately, I find that this instinct has been hijacked in me to become an enabler of my girlfriend's narcissistic and unfaithful lifestyle.

She wants to flirt and sleep with other men, but she wants me to be her emotional anchor and always be there to take care of her.

It's not going to happen.

Much of the progress I've made in learning to deal with my girlfriend's wandering attention has been learning to set boundaries for her and myself.

Yes I love her

But no, I will never accept being treated like trash or an ATM machine.

I am not and never will be.

As the YouTube channel Artistic Motivation explains here, nurturing is natural, but unfortunately when taken too far, it can become a weakness that allows women to hurt and manipulate us like men.

6) You have constant inexplicable absences and things come up

Of all the unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another guy, this one tops the list.

It's a bit of a stereotype forcheating husbandsor friends to keep things "popping" at work or other times of the week...

But I assure you that the same thing happens with a friend who is in love with another boy.

I honestly don't think my girlfriend's flirtation with Tyler went beyond sexting.

But I also know that his inexplicable absences are always times when he could easily fool me.

If I get picky or overly paranoid, it will only push her further away.

If I just give up and stop worrying, I'll become exactly the kind of enabler who would appreciate his girlfriend using him like a piggy bank while she looks for another guy.

I'm not interested in either option.

I want to trust my partner, really, but I want her to too.Respectand appreciate me

Her inexplicable absence can eventually cause you to get to the point where you openly call her out. Unfortunately, sometimes this is absolutely necessary.

Just remember that if she were you, she would definitely do the same.

7) It takes you to a place of despair and confusion.

The saddest of the unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another man is that it can leave you very confused and hopeless about your worth as a man and your romantic future.

Like I said, I even had my doubts about what it would be worth if my girlfriend broke up with me.

I am ashamed to say that thinking about my own life scares me and makes me doubt my own worth.

In this article, I go into a lot of detail about the signs that your girlfriend is losing her attraction to you, or at least gaining significant attraction to another man.

It is a really difficult topic to face without having deep doubts about your own worth and the future of the relationship.

That's why I wholeheartedly recommend talking to a relationship coach.

The accredited trainers inrelationship heroThey are the best I have personally come across and really helped me get a realistic view of my girlfriend's behavior and what it means.

My coach was a great listener and also gave me very insightful advice that I had never thought of on how to approach this challenge.

I came away from our sessions really revitalized and more confident in my own position.

Instead of feeling like I was searching in the dark for some kind of answer, I felt empowered to take concrete action on what to do in my relationship.

My girlfriend's demeanor and decreased interest no longer put me in the victim position.

After being lost in thought for so long, the coaches ofrelationship heroHe showed me all the tools I had in my toolbox that I hadn't even noticed.

I highly recommend you check them out and give them a try.

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8) She talks about him all the time

Any other unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another guy?

She talks about him all the time.

The name "Tyler" doesn't seem to come off my pretty girl's lips. She says they're just friends, but forgive me for thinking "just friends" probably won't send dick pics.

Like I said, I'm stuck in the vice of being too laid back and cuckolding or getting paranoid and kicking my girlfriend out anyway.

I take advantage of this uncertain time to work on myself and my fear of being alone.

What am I so afraid of being alone again?

I would also have many great aspects and liberties, so why do I crave the validation and companionship of a woman who treats me like this?

It's something the coaches are working on.relationship heroIt helped me understand and find solutions.

It's not easy hearing another guy's name on your girlfriend's lips all the time...

It's also not easy to think about where else her lips and his could have been.

9) Your interests start to change completely

One of the most unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another man is a sudden change in her interests and passions.

My girlfriendhe loves sports and fitness. He also likes to go to clubs and similar places with his friends.

I don't like these things unless you count ping pong. I wouldn't go near a club with a ten foot pole (and mine doesn't even come close to that).

Anyway, what I'm trying to say here is that a few months ago I noticed that my girlfriend changed radically.

He started dressing as a nerd and talking about a guy named "Marcuse".

Then he got really into this super weird version of how to structure society and started talking about another guy named Habermas.

Smart European-sounding guys, sure I can agree with that.

But I was a bit shocked when I saw her lose interest in playing volleyball or going dancing with her friends.

He even said that Rihanna was just a "reification" of capitalist oppression. Here I thought Rihanna just sucks but who knows.

Imagine my surprise when I scanned Tyler's social media to see a plethora of strange Antifa symbols andsanctimoniousRules on "Liberation".

Yes cool

10) Express a sudden desire to follow a different path than yours

Also, be on the lookout for unfortunate signs that your girlfriend likes another man when she suddenly says that she wants to follow a different path than yours.

I have had a plan for a long time to get into hospitality and eventually open a hotel, and my girlfriend has been very interested in that for years.

He said he wants to host themed dance nights and everything else...

Great: let them run the club side and I'll figure out our business model and mortgage.

But now he ran away and even hit me with it.sarcasticshe comments on how excited she is to "blow up" the country and join me in my quest for "neo-colonialism."

As far as I know, I'm not a colonialist of any kind, but apparently I am some kind of demon.

Whatever it is, she doesn't want to sleep with me anymore and I feel awkward and shitty with her, so it's not exactly surprising to hear that she doesn't like the idea of ​​our hotel either.

But I'm not going to lie and say it doesn't disappoint.

11) She starts hinting at a break up all the time.

The next unfortunate sign that your girlfriend likes another guy is when she hits on him.stop doing thisall the time.

My girlfriend does this several times a week in so many ways that it makes me sick to think about it.

Jokes and memes that he sends me on Instagram...

The comments you make about the need toindependenceand people to discover their own “journey”.

And much more...

Yes I understand. But if she really wants to break up, she sincerely wishes she'd come out and say it instead of hinting at it everywhere.

I understand that she wants itBe worriedabout her leaving or trying to push me to go more alternative or something.

But what exactly is the purpose?

Is she going or not?

Because knowing that she's so into Tyler and that she's into me didn't exactly leave a great taste in my mouth.

12) Criticize your appearance and personality

Another unfortunate sign that your girlfriend likes another man is that she is quite critical of you physically and personality wise.

Apparently I am too "conformist" and also too fat.

This has to do with the fact that I eat meat, which my girlfriend refuses because she has become a Buddhist.

Yes, I forgot to mention before that she also became a Buddhist (apart from not doing drugs...)

According to her, eating meat fills us with the suffering of living beings and links us more to cycles of suffering and desire. This is good to know because your complaints about these things directly increase my suffering.Legendand the desire to run off a cliff.

If your girlfriend bullies you like hers, you can be sure that not only is she not afraid of losing you, but she is probably actively trying to encourage you to be the one to end things.

13) She withdraws her attention and affection from you

My girlfriend seems like a different person than the girl I started dating four years ago andfell in love.

You've changed your interests, your approach, even the way you speak.

I still think there's some juice in our relationship, but I'm not too happy to have to do all the heavy lifting here.

I also have my reservations about this matter between her and Tyler.

It seems like he's in control of his mind, and I think there's a good chance he's in control of his heart as well.

14) He openly tells you that he likes another guy

This step has not yet taken place.my relationship, but I have certainly prepared for this and know that it is likely to happen at any moment.

If your girlfriend tells you directly that she likes another guy, you better take it seriously. As sad as it is, we all have to make our own decisions.

If she decides to leave you, there isn't always something you can do to change that.

¿Dissolve or rebuild?

If you are like me, then you have reached a crossroads and the choice before you is disturbing but clear:

Break or rebuild.

I keep making progress by talking to the coaches inrelationship heroand decide exactly what to do.

I was ripped apart by mixed signals from my girlfriend and ongoing relationship with Tyler.

I know he's not her type, and I know he only picks on her.

At the same time, I can't control what's in his heart or what he feels.

To be honest, my decision right now is to break up unless I see a direct and real improvement in our relationship over the next month.

From my point of view, the ball is now in the hands of my girlfriend.

It's Tyler or me.

And it's up to her to decide.